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They force us to look at the light and experience the shadows. http://net-teams.net/nti/Display.cfm/325 http://net-teams.net/nti/Display.cfm/325 Sat, 23 May 2009 04:08:00 PST How often have you had the experience of connecting with someone – a friend or a potential partner – who turns out to be an uncaring person? At first you think this is a really good person, and then down the line you discover that the person is self-centered, narcissistic, angry and uncaring. You wonder how you could be so wrong, and what can you do differently next time? http://net-teams.net/nti/Display.cfm/338 http://net-teams.net/nti/Display.cfm/338 Sat, 23 May 2009 04:08:01 PST Many of us, especially women, tend to put others’ needs before our own. We neglect ourselves and eventually resent those who have been on the receiving end of our love and attention. What we fail to realize is the importance of putting ourselves first. No, it is not selfish. 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