http://net-teams.net/nti/Display.cfm/9897 Emotional dependency means getting one’s good feelings from outside oneself. It means needing to get filled from outside rather than from within. Who or what do you believe is responsible for your emotional wellbeing? Sat, 07 Aug 2010 12:10:56 PST en-us http://net-teams.net/nti/Display.cfm/9897 http://net-teams.net/nti/Display.cfm/9897 Sat, 07 Aug 2010 12:10:56 PST Summary: Many partners attempt to bond with candles, wine or lingerie, only to find their time together feeling flat, empty and passionless. In this article, discover what really creates bonding, intimacy and passion with your partner.A journalist interviewed me regarding intimacy in relationships. One of her questions was, “What are some of the easy ways in which husband and wife can bond - without candles and wine and expensive lingerie?”Easy ways? 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