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Submitted by Leticia Santos
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Lets face it; if youre looking for advice on marriage, you could spend DAYS researching on the internet without even scratching the surface of all the marriage advice thats out there.
But the sad fact is, thats what most people in your situation do
they RESEARCH
but never ACT on the concepts and ideas they learn about because they come up with excuses for why THEIR situation is DIFFERENT.
Well let me tell you
.your situation is NOT different. And as EXTREME as MY marriage was
my situation was NOT different either
So why am I qualified to give YOU advice on marriage? Because I managed to save my marriage
on my own
after 27 years of fighting, car chases and battles over her way vs. my way.
Our marriage was as bad as it gets.
You see, I married my COMPLETE OPPOSITE. In fact, youd think we were from different planets if you compared our habits, values, priorities and temperaments
and thats before you take into account our male/female differences
.which brings me to one of the best pieces of advice on marriage that I can give you
1. LEARN THE 5 LOVE LANGUAGES
When I discovered this critical bit of advice on marriage, it really opened my eyes as to EXACTLY what made my wife happy. Often times we wish our spouse would treat us a certain way, but we never actually tell them what it is that we want them to do!
Gary Chapman, author of the book, The Five Live Languages, makes it easy for you to communicate what you need from your spouse to feel loved
and what they need from you!
When I found out what made my wife feel loved
I was SHOCKED!
She wanted acts of service of all things! I thought that since I liked words of affirmation
that she would too!
I hated doing acts of service (a.k.a. chores around the house, gardening and repairs) and thats exactly why I wasnt meeting her needs! I didnt realize what I was doing wrong until I read this book.
which reminds me
heres another great piece of advice on marriage you need to keep in mind...
Many couples make the BIG mistake of treating their spouse the way they WISH their spouse would treat THEM!
In other words, smothering your spouse in hugs and kisses isnt going to make him/her want to hug/kiss YOU more if what they actually need from YOU is acts of service like taking out the trash or cleaning the house!
If you want to improve your marriage and have your spouse meet your needs, by meeting theirs FIRST, I highly recommend this book. You can find it at: http://www.stopyourdivorcein4weeks.com/gary.html
Now Ive never seen anyone talk about this last piece of advice on marriage, so pay close attention
2. YOU CANT IMPROVE YOUR MARRIAGE UNLESS YOU FEEL LIKE IT FIRST
Many people search for the recipe for a happy marriage, in a quest for a simple LIST of things they can go do and then simply check the items off of their list.
But unfortunately, thats not how REAL married life works. I could give you a long list of advice on marriage that would improve your relationship, but that list wont do you any good. If youre like most married couples, you wont act on ANY advice on marriage
until you first feel like doing it FIRST.
Telling you to go do something to improve your marriage is NOT going to make a difference in your relationship when you resent your spouse and feel SO negative that you cant even bring yourself to do it!
The key is actually FEELING LIKE doing something positive for your marriage
and THEN doing it.
Believe me; its MUCH easier to do something nice for your spouse when youre feeling optimistic about your marriage
than it is to force yourself to be the first one to take a step towards a better marriage.
Now I know what youre thinking. How do I get to the point where I FEEL LIKE doing something to improve my marriage? Im so frustrated with my spouse right now!
Well, Im glad you asked. I offer a FREE mini-course on How to Overcome Your Negative feelings
the Moment they Appear. If youre at all interested, keep reading so you can get started on the mini-course right away
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