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Submitted by Sarah Fisher
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Trust is an essential element to any relationship.
This lies at the heart of a strong relationship.
But, once that trust has been abused, it will be
very hard to rebuild that into the relationship.
Let's say that you have a relationship for some
time and you really love your partner. Although,
you have been caught having an affair by your
girlfriend. No matter how she caught you, she saw
the messages from your mobile, she heard you
talking with the other or saw you together, you
have to deal the situation if you really want to
save your relationship.
Infidelity causes intense emotional pain, anger,
disbelief, fear, guilt, shame; but an affair
doesn't have to mean the end of your
relationship.
Here are some useful tips that may help you save
your relationship:
- end the affair - first of all you must end your
affair; if you choose to stay with your
girlfriend, you must end all interactions and
communications with the other
- be honest- open communication with your partner
it is very important; if she caught you in the
act and she know now that you have been
unfaithful to her, you have told her already many
lies, so now you must confess; don't deny,
because this will make things worst;
- apologize her - even if you like it with the
other, show your girlfriend that you are sorry
for the pain you caused her and promise her that
you finished your affair; convince her that you
really love her and you don't wanna lose her for
a mistake
- talk to her - if she wants to know all the
details, you've better tell her even if she will
be hurt, and let her vent her hurt and anger; she
will tell how she feels more than once but you
should understand her and listen; remember that
it is your fault that she feels like that
- identify the issues - identify often points to
underlying problems in your relationship; examine
your relationship to understand what has
contributed to the affair;some people cheat
because they aren't getting their needs met
inside their relationship; if she ask you why you
did it, don't be brutal; say it the truth but in
a diplomatic way
- be accountable - if you had an affair you must
take responsibility for your actions
- give her some space - you both need a break
from the emotional stress; you'd better discuss
after she's calm down
- rebuilt trust - start with small opportunities
to grow closer together; after infidelity,
communication becomes incredibly strained; but if
you don't communicate you can never heal and
build trust again in your relationship
- determine your shared goal - make sure that you
both want to save your relationship
- go to a relationship counselor - to help you
dealing with your relationship problems; it might
really help you to save your relationship
- set groundrules - decide both some rules for
the future in you relationship so that both feel
safe and secure
Sometimes after passing trow a situation like
this, the relationships becomes stronger than
ever before. But, if it happens that your
girlfriend doesn't want to forgive you for what
you did, and want to end the relationship, you've
better respect her decision.
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