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Submitted by Gray Parsons
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Why People Are Afraid To Take Risks & Leave Their Comfort Zones
When we consider actually moving toward our hearts desire, a part of us automatically looks ahead to the possible consequences - especially the negative ones. Our comfort zone glooms onto these negative consequences. The comfort zone argues its the actions that will bring on the negative consequences.
The comfort zones emotionally backed recommendation: No Action
The comfort zone stays fairly quiet as long as we dont seriously contemplate action. We can want our dream all we want; we can think about someday getting it as much as we like; we can tell everyone we know how were one day going to have it at every opportunity. We can even make commitments we dont really plan to keep. The only thing we cant do is DO IT!
If we begin to do it, the comfort zone goes into overdrive - hyperdrive, actually - and gets us back on track. On track to the comfort zone is what weve always done before, which means heading (again) toward B, even though our dream rests with A. Why are the consequences of action so uncomfortable? Lets take a look:
1. When we choose, we must let other choices go. For example, if we have enough money for one popsicle, and we choose cherry, we must let go of grape, orange, tangerine, banana supreme, watermelon, and passion fruit. Naturally, we dont want to let go of all of those other flavors that we love. All that loss! Were miserable. We should have stayed at home. No, the storekeeper wont let us have a bite of each. No, theres no credit. We keep picking up and setting down one flavor after another, feeling rotten, until we get frostbite. When we make our big choice and go for the Big Dream, it means letting go of all the other Big Dreams, even though those dreams may be as appealing as grape, orange, tangerine, banana supreme, watermelon, and passion fruit. If we make no choice, we end up with nothing.
2. When we choose, we risk losing. If we boldly walk into the store and say, I want a cherry popsicle, we run the risk of the storekeeper saying, Were all out, or, even worse, We sold the last one five minutes ago. You just missed it. (Why do people say things like that? Why do they add torture to torment? We dont know why, but they do.)
If we commit to the one Big Dream, we might not get it. We might lose. And not only will we know, but everyone else will know, too. Its the agony of defeat. Ugh! How horrible. When we never really choose - never really commit - if we dont get it, we can always say, Oh, I didnt really want it anyway.
3. When we choose, we risk winning. We stride in! We put down our money! We get the cherry popsicle! We claim it! It is in our hand! It is ours! The store- keeper says, Congratulations! Now what?
Its the big Now-What? that many people find more intimidating than the agony of defeat. Defeat is part of most peoples comfort zone. But winning? What would I do? What would happen to me? How would I cope? Its called the fear of success. Not only do we have to make changes to become successful, but success itself brings additional changes. The greater the success, the greater the changes.
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